What is Love? Definition of True Love

Poets and authors have tried to define love for centuries, whereas scientists have only recently started. Many of us know intuitively that love is a major purpose for living; that connection is inherent in all that we do, and without love, we cannot survive as a species.

But what is love, and how do we know when we're in it? First, let's start off with what love isn't.

What Is Love? It Definitely Isn't...

• Manipulation. "If you loved me, then you would..." isn't love, but rather infatuation.
  
• Compromising who you are. If someone asks you to do or say something that isn't in your nature, that isn't true love. Although love does involve compromises between partners, someone who is in love with you will never ask you to change who you are in order to be loved.
  
• Violent. Passions can definitely become inflamed with someone you love, but a relationship with physical or emotional violence isn't true love.
  
• Just lust. Yes, chemistry and physical attraction are important, but true love also includes commitment, trust and respect.

So then, what exactly is love?

True Love Is...

• True Love is Caring. The ancient Greeks had many different names for different forms of love: passion, virtuous, affection for the family, desire, and general affection. But no matter how love is defined, they all hold a common trait: caring.
  
• True Love is Attractive. Attraction and chemistry form the bond that allows people to mate. Without this romantic desire for another individual, a relationship is nothing more than lust or infatuation.
  
• True Love is Attached. Like the mother-child bond, attachment comes after the initial attraction. Attachment is the long term love that appears anywhere from one to three years into a romantic relationship (sometimes sooner and very rarely after), and you'll know you've found it when you can honestly say, "I've seen the worst and the best you have to offer, and I still love you," while your partner feels the same way.
  
• True Love is Committed. When it comes to true love, commitment is more than just monogamy. Its the knowledge that your partner cares for you and has your back, no matter what the circumstances. People who are strongly committed to one another will, when faced with seemingly negative information about their partner, see only the positive. For example, a friend comments that your partner doesn't say a lot. "Ah yes, he's the strong, silent type," you reply. People with less commitment to their partner would instead say something like, "Yeah, I can never have conversation with him. Its annoying."
  
• True Love is Intimate. Intimacy is a crucial component of all relationships, regardless of their nature. In order to know another, you need to share parts of yourself. This self-revealing behaviour, when reciprocated, forms an emotional bond. Over time this bond strengthens and even evolves, so that two people merge closer and closer together. Intimacy by itself if is a great friendship, but compiled with the other things in this list, it forms an equation for true love.

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13 Signs of Falling In love

Love is a awesome feeling and many Poets and authors have tried to define love for centuries, whereas scientists have only recently started. Many of us know intuitively that love is a major purpose for living; that connection is inherent in all that we do, and without love, we cannot survive as a species.

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What is the meaning of falling in Love

Meaning of falling Love

In romantic relationships, falling in love is mainly a western concept of moving from a feeling of neutrality towards a person to one of love. The use of the term "fall" means that the process is in some way uncontrollable, risky, irreversible, and that it puts the lover in a state of vulnerability. The term is generally used to describe an (eventual) love that is strong.

Sociobiologists point to the preeminence of heart over head at such crucial moments. Bonding with a mate "suggest that 'the answer to why we fall in love encompasses, complex neurochemical processes that occur in our brains when we are attracted to another person' and 'tell us that when we fall in love we are falling into a stream of naturally occurring amphetamines running through the emotional centers of our very own brains'.

Love is largely self-generated and falling in love a "process Stendhal calls crystallization....Before you fall in love, you see the other person as a bare branch; as you fall, you coat him or her with jeweled attractions about 80 percent of your own making".

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Beautiful romantic quotes for romantic persons

At least I know what love is. Like clouds love the sky, ocean loves sand, winter loves snow, snow loves breeze, it's all connected. It's called unconditional love. It's in our heart.
-Niki Yan

If falling in love is like taking off or flying, then love is like landing.
-Ayala Malakh-Pines

Love is like a diamond; for as a diamond is beautiful to look upon, so is love fair, but as the diamond is poison to any one who swallows it, in the same manner love is a kind of poison and produces a baneful raging distemper in those who are infected by it.
-Jens Peter Jacobsen

I want you to make love, not war.
-John Lennon

All you need is love.
-John Lennon

If a person loves only one other person and is indifferent to the rest of his fellow men, his love is not love but a symbiotic attachment, or an enlarged egotism.
-Erich Fromm

I've made the most important discovery of my life. It's only in the mysterious equation of love that any logical reasons can be found.
-Erich Fromm

The opposite of loneliness, it's not togetherness. It is intimacy.
-Richard Bach

For small creatures such as we the vastness is bearable only through love.
-Carl Sagan

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love quotes: Top qoutes for your facebook status

It's useless to hold a person to anything he says while he's in love, drunk, or running for office.
Shirley MacLaine

Let us always meet each other with smile, for the smile is the beginning of love.
Mother Teresa

Life is the flower for which love is the honey.
Victor Hugo

Life without love is like a tree without blossoms or fruit.
Khalil Gibran

Looking back, I have this to regret, that too often when I loved, I did not say so.
David Grayson

Love can sometimes be magic. But magic can sometimes... just be an illusion.
Javan

Love conquers all.
Virgil

Love consists in this, that two solitudes protect and touch and greet each other.
Rainer Maria Rilke

Love does not begin and end the way we seem to think it does. Love is a battle, love is a war; love is a growing up.
James A. Baldwin

Love does not dominate; it cultivates.
Johann Wolfgang von Goethe

Love is a canvas furnished by nature and embroidered by imagination.
Voltaire

Love is a force more formidable than any other. It is invisible - it cannot be seen or measured, yet it is powerful enough to transform you in a moment, and offer you more joy than any material possession could.
Barbara de Angelis

Love is a game that two can play and both win.
Eva Gabor

Love is a gross exaggeration of the difference between one person and everybody else.
George Bernard Shaw

Love is a smoke made with the fume of sighs.
William Shakespeare

Love is all we have, the only way that each can help the other.
Euripides

Love is always bestowed as a gift - freely, willingly and without expectation. We don't love to be loved; we love to love.
Leo Buscaglia

Love is an act of endless forgiveness, a tender look which becomes a habit.
Peter Ustinov

Love is an irresistible desire to be irresistibly desired.
Robert Frost

Love is being stupid together.
Paul Valery

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love qoutes: top love quotetions

I have found the paradox, that if you love until it hurts, there can be no more hurt, only more love.
Mother Teresa

I like not only to be loved, but also to be told I am loved.
George Eliot

I was about half in love with her by the time we sat down. That's the thing about girls. Every time they do something pretty... you fall half in love with them, and then you never know where the hell you are.
J. D. Salinger

If you could only love enough, you could be the most powerful person in the world.
Emmet Fox

If you live to be a hundred, I want to live to be a hundred minus one day so I never have to live without you.
A. A. Milne

If you press me to say why I loved him, I can say no more than because he was he, and I was I.
Michel de Montaigne

If you want to be loved, be lovable.
Ovid

Immature love says: 'I love you because I need you.' Mature love says 'I need you because I love you.'
Erich Fromm

In love the paradox occurs that two beings become one and yet remain two.
Erich Fromm

It is difficult to know at what moment love begins; it is less difficult to know that it has begun.
Henry Wadsworth Longfellow

It is sad not to love, but it is much sadder not to be able to love.
Miguel de Unamuno

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Love quotes: top love quotes

A kiss is a lovely trick designed by nature to stop speech when words become superfluous.
Ingrid Bergman

A kiss is a rosy dot over the 'i' of loving.
Cyrano de Bergerac

A kiss makes the heart young again and wipes out the years.
Rupert Brooke

A loving heart is the beginning of all knowledge.
Thomas Carlyle

A man reserves his true and deepest love not for the species of woman in whose company he finds himself electrified and enkindled, but for that one in whose company he may feel tenderly drowsy.
George Jean Nathan

A pair of powerful spectacles has sometimes sufficed to cure a person in love.
Friedrich Nietzsche

A very small degree of hope is sufficient to cause the birth of love.
Stendhal

A woman knows the face of the man she loves as a sailor knows the open sea.
Honore de Balzac

Absence diminishes mediocre passions and increases great ones, as the wind extinguishes candles and fans fires.
Francois de La Rochefoucauld

Affection is responsible for nine-tenths of whatever solid and durable happiness there is in our lives.
C. S. Lewis

All love shifts and changes. I don't know if you can be wholeheartedly in love all the time.
Julie Andrews

All mankind love a lover.
Ralph Waldo Emerson

All my life, my heart has yearned for a thing I cannot name.
Andre Breton

As soon go kindle fire with snow, as seek to quench the fire of love with words.
William Shakespeare

At the touch of love everyone becomes a poet.
Plato

Before I met my husband, I'd never fallen in love. I'd stepped in it a few times.
Rita Rudner

Being deeply loved by someone gives you strength, while loving someone deeply gives you courage.
Lao Tzu

Can miles truly separate you from friends... If you want to be with someone you love, aren't you already there?
Richard Bach

Come live in my heart, and pay no rent.
Samuel Lover

Do all things with love.
Og Mandino

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Love qoutes: This week top 10 Quotes of love

"If you love something, let it go. If it comes back to you, its yours forever. If it dosent, then it was never meant to be."

"The hardest thing to do is watch the one you love, love someone else."

"If a hug represented how much I loved you, I would hold you in my arms forever."

"Don't say you love me unless you really mean it, because I might do something crazy like believe it."


"I believe that two people are connected at the heart, and it doesn't matter what you do, or who you are or where you live; there are no boundaries or barriers if two people are destined to be together."

"We come to love not by finding a perfect person but by learning to see an imperfect person perfectly.
- Sam Keen

"Love is that condition in which the happiness of another person is essential to your own."

"To the world you may be one person...but to one person you may be the world.


NOTE: This wonderful quote has been attributed to Brandi Snyder, Taylor Hanson or Heather Cortez. Sorry, we don't know its original source."

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New love quotes : top 5 New Love Quotes for you

1# Find A guy who calls you beautiful instead of hot, who calls you back when you hang up on him, who will lie under the stars and listen to your heart beat, or will stay awake to watch you sleep, wait for the boy who kisses your forehead, who wants to show ou off to the world when you're just in sweats, who holds your hand in front of his friends. Who thinks that you're just as pretty without make-up on, one who is constantly reminding you of how much he cares and how lucky he is to have you...The one who turns to his friends with a smile and says, "She's the one!"

2# Meeting you was fate, becoming your friend was a choice, falling in love with you was beyond my control!

3# You have given me a second chance in life Sometime before you I couldn't cop with the strife You've given me that love I dreamed of forever Happiness I been united with now that we're together You've touched my heart so deeply with your gentle touch To world I will never deny that I love you so much Words can't explain how thankful I am of you You have brought my smiles to overcome my blue The moments that we have shared the memories we make I promise your heart won't shatter or even break My world has changed forever now that you are here I miss you so much when you are not near I've opened up my everything to you because I trust you The more comfortable I am with anything we go through The love you and I share has made us one whole You have made my life complete from once an empty soul You will always be the girl who will stand out from the rest I'll never forget each memory that you made the best Forever in my heart baby with this love I'll always keep I'll always have you in my heart even when I'm asleep

4# I have found new love, like i've never known before. I find myself waiting for you, in desperation and in hope. You have told me you love me, and it's hard for me to say. Our love is new, but i do love you. If i fall in too deep, i'll find myself in weep. You are my life, my soul and my passion, every waking moment i wish you here to embrace me. So please, if i tell you i love you, promise me i won't get hurt. because i love you and i'll love you like love has never seen before.

5# I was afraid of love, I thought love took time, like a fine wine aging in the cellar. I was wrong. Love is there from the moment you see that person, embrace it let it grow, follow your heart, not your mind.

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love qoutes: top 10 True Love Quotes for you

1# True love is not how you forgive, but how you forget, not what you see but what you feel, not how you listen but how you understand, and not how you let go but how you hold on.

2# True love is not how you forgive, but how you forget, not what you see but what you feel, not how you listen but how you understand, and not how you let go but how you hold on.by Lovely

3# True love is not about the hugs and kisses, the 'I love you's' or the 'I miss you's', but about the chills that hit every part of your spine when you think about him.

4# When we love, it isn't because the person's perfect, it's because we learn to see an imperfect person perfectly.

5# It's not who you are to the world, it's who you are to me. It's not how many times I say I love you... it's how much I really do.

6# You know you truly love somebody when they hurt you so badly, but all you can think about it is the times when they made you smile.

 7# Last night I looked up at the stars and matched each one with a reason why I love you. I was doing great until I ran out of stars.

8# A priceless moment is when the person that you have fallen in love with, looks you right in the eyes to tell you that they have fallen in love with you.

9# You may hold my hand for a while, but you hold my heart forever.

10# I love you because you bring out the best in me, and holding on to that thought, I sincerely believe that just by being with you shall bring out the best life I ever could live.

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Love quotes: Top 5 Love quotes for your loved one

Here is our top 5 rated Love Quotes
1. There is only one happiness in life, to love and be loved.
2. The hardest thing to do is watch the one you love, love someone else.
3. Love is not to be purchased, and affection has no price.
4. Absence from the person you love is only healthy in theory.
5. If a hug represented how much I loved you, I would hold you in my arms forever.


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