5 Best Ways To Love

Love is expressed as an action and experienced as a feeling. So here it is Love tips for lovers. Yet, love has an essence that resists defining in any single way — it encompasses compassion, determination, tolerance, endurance, support, faith, and much more. If you're in the dark about how to love, this article should give you some food for thought, and perhaps teach you a little bit about how to love yourself, love the world, and love other people just a little bit more.

1. Accept your past:

If you've been hurt in the past, you really need to begin to cope with that feeling before you can love someone else. You may feel that things you did in the past will make you unlovable, or that you have too many problems to be lovable. Maybe you feel that because your past relationships failed, all others are doomed to fail as well. But this is not the case and you should never feel for a moment that what has happened to you before will keep you from being happy now. Accept the things that happened to you, forgive, and move on.

2.Get rid of the list

You know the list: that compendium of requirements that a potential partner or friend must meet, kept in your head or even written down. Yeah, get rid of that. Recognize that by keeping such a list, you’re creating the person you want to be with, rather than meeting the person you’re meant to be with. Real people don’t fit in boxes. You can certainly keep in mind qualities that you want a person to have, but don’t require someone to meet all of them and make sure you've got your priorities in order.

3.Reconsider your priorities

If you’re putting a nice butt before a stable personality, you’re going to have a really tough time in relationships. Same goes for things like valuing friends who get you into the best clubs over friends who’ll hold your hair back while you puke. Take those items from your list (discussed above) and separate them out into wants vs needs. Then take a hard look at why you prioritize the things you do.

4. Open yourself to new possibilities

Once you've given some hard thought to what really matters to you in your relationships, take another look at the people around you and the people that you meet every day. Maybe people you’d previously dismissed will suddenly seem okay. You’ll find...potential. And that’s all you need to start with. Potential may not feel like love at first sight, but it can grow into the most beautiful and stable love you’ve experienced.

5. Love yourself

Before loving anyone else, you have to love yourself. This is important on so many levels. It will show you how to experience love, it will send a message to people you love that you are worth loving in return, and it will make you a better lover because you will not be hindered by self-doubt and confidence issues.

• If you have problems loving yourself, then change yourself. Build your self confidence by doing something wonderful and being a better person. Conquer all of your bad habits that make you self-conscious. Just don’t expect to make yourself into the perfect person, because perfect people do not exist.

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What is Love? Definition of True Love

Poets and authors have tried to define love for centuries, whereas scientists have only recently started. Many of us know intuitively that love is a major purpose for living; that connection is inherent in all that we do, and without love, we cannot survive as a species.

But what is love, and how do we know when we're in it? First, let's start off with what love isn't.

What Is Love? It Definitely Isn't...

• Manipulation. "If you loved me, then you would..." isn't love, but rather infatuation.
  
• Compromising who you are. If someone asks you to do or say something that isn't in your nature, that isn't true love. Although love does involve compromises between partners, someone who is in love with you will never ask you to change who you are in order to be loved.
  
• Violent. Passions can definitely become inflamed with someone you love, but a relationship with physical or emotional violence isn't true love.
  
• Just lust. Yes, chemistry and physical attraction are important, but true love also includes commitment, trust and respect.

So then, what exactly is love?

True Love Is...

• True Love is Caring. The ancient Greeks had many different names for different forms of love: passion, virtuous, affection for the family, desire, and general affection. But no matter how love is defined, they all hold a common trait: caring.
  
• True Love is Attractive. Attraction and chemistry form the bond that allows people to mate. Without this romantic desire for another individual, a relationship is nothing more than lust or infatuation.
  
• True Love is Attached. Like the mother-child bond, attachment comes after the initial attraction. Attachment is the long term love that appears anywhere from one to three years into a romantic relationship (sometimes sooner and very rarely after), and you'll know you've found it when you can honestly say, "I've seen the worst and the best you have to offer, and I still love you," while your partner feels the same way.
  
• True Love is Committed. When it comes to true love, commitment is more than just monogamy. Its the knowledge that your partner cares for you and has your back, no matter what the circumstances. People who are strongly committed to one another will, when faced with seemingly negative information about their partner, see only the positive. For example, a friend comments that your partner doesn't say a lot. "Ah yes, he's the strong, silent type," you reply. People with less commitment to their partner would instead say something like, "Yeah, I can never have conversation with him. Its annoying."
  
• True Love is Intimate. Intimacy is a crucial component of all relationships, regardless of their nature. In order to know another, you need to share parts of yourself. This self-revealing behaviour, when reciprocated, forms an emotional bond. Over time this bond strengthens and even evolves, so that two people merge closer and closer together. Intimacy by itself if is a great friendship, but compiled with the other things in this list, it forms an equation for true love.

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13 Signs of Falling In love

Love is a awesome feeling and many Poets and authors have tried to define love for centuries, whereas scientists have only recently started. Many of us know intuitively that love is a major purpose for living; that connection is inherent in all that we do, and without love, we cannot survive as a species.

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Most Romantic Love Songs of Bollywood in 2013

Even after years have passed, today’s Bollywood movies always try to feature a love song. The real fact behind this is that romance is never dead in Bollywood. We all try to be romantic in your life and so the Romantic love songs help us in a great way to express our inner feelings to our beloved. It’s hard for any Indian people from any corner of the country to live without romantic songs. Romantic songs help us to believe in love as we all know life without love is hard to exist. So bollywood movies always promote romantic love songs 2014 in the movie as well all love to listen to those numbers. Even after so many years and completion of 100 years of Indian Bollywood movies romantic movies are highly preferred by the audience and so maximum number of romantic movies are produced by the directors. We will call a movie incomplete until and unless we get to see at least one romantic love song in it. We know that you are very keen to get the list of best new Bollywood romantic love songs 2013 and 2014, so we decided to prepare one especially for you.

Top Bollywood Romantic Love Songs of All time

Bollywood song popularity has increased all over the world in past few years, and now Bollywood has made its mark and is as popular as that of Hollywood songs. And more upcoming songs are scheduled to make lovers worldwide share in the magic that is Bollywood romantic songs. We know that you are keen to get the list of new Bollywood romantic love songs 2013 or 2014 Bollywood encourages lovers worldwide to feel the romance. We are pretty sure about the fact that you are going to love these awesome romantic numbers from Bollywood movies.

• Main Yahaan Hoon
• Dil Ne Yeh Kaha Hai Dil Se
• Ehsaan Tera Hoga Mujh Par
• Aisa Na Mujhe Tum Dekho
• Aise Na Mujhe Tum (darling Darling)
• Meri Bheegi Bheegi Si Anamik
• Jo Wada Kiya Woh Nibhana Padega
• Dilbar Mere – Satte Pe Satta
• Dil Ke Jharokhe Mein
• Chura Liya Hai Tumne Jo Dil Ko
• Dekha Ek Khwab
• Ishron Isharon Mein
• Bin Tere Sanam
• Aaye Ho Mere Zindagi
• Har Kisi Ko Nahi Milta – Duet
• Sadhana Sargam
• Mere Haath Mein
• Jab Tak Hai Jaan
• Hum Tumhen Chahte Hain
• Mere Dil Mein Aaj Kya Hai
• Agar Tum Mil Jao -zeher
• Hothan Se Chhu Lo Tum
• Yeh Raat Bheegi Bheegi
• Chand Sifarish
• Tari Galyon Mein
• Baharon Phool Barsaao
• Mujhe Tumse Mohbbat Hai

Bollywood Romantic Love Songs 2013

01-Sawaar Loon — Lootera
02-Tum hi ho — Aashiqui 2
03-Raanjhanaa — Raanjhanaa
04-Jeene Laga Hoon — Ramaiya Vastavaiya
05-Zinda — Bhaag Milkha Bhaag
06-1234 Get On The Dance Floor — Chennai Express
07-Badtameez Dil — Yeh Jawani Hai Deewani
08-Titli — Chennai Express
09-Tum Tak — Ranjhanaaa
10-Ye Tune Kya Kiya — Once Upon A Time in Mumbaai
11-Mera Yaar — Bhaag Milkha Bhaag
12-Balam Pickari — Yeh Jawani Hai Deewani
13-Sun Raha Hai — Aashiqui 2
14-Maston Ka Jhund — Bhaag Milkha Bhaag
15-Ambarsariya — Fukrey
16-Dilli Wali Girlfriend — Yeh Jawani Hai Deewani
17-Issaq Tera — Issaq
18-Ankahee — Lootera
19-Ghanchakkar Babu — Ghanchakkar
20-Chahun Main Ya Na — Aashiqui 2

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Very Romantic Love Songs List

Love Songs or romantic songs are always in demand as this is the best way to express all your feelings and deepest emotions of heart to your love interest. If you have just fallen in love but couldn't say those three golden words, ‘I Love You’ to someone who has stolen your sleep in night and makes you restless in day time, then there are thousands of popular love songs/romantic songs that can help you to win the heart of your sweetheart. But question is what are the best love songs? As you can’t select any common type love song but the top love songs for your lover or would-be-lover.

love songs have a unique magic, the magic of love that brings feelings of deepest love and sweetest memories in our heart, and makes every moment as a romantic moment. We have got a list of top romantic songs in which you will find all the best love songs ever. Scroll down a little more for soulful and heart touchy romantic ballads that can easily make your love interest crazy for you.

List of Best Love Songs Ever

• Everything I Do, I Do It for You – Bryan Adams
• Love Me Tender – Elvis Presley
• When a Man Loves a Woman – Percy Sledge
• You’re The First, The Last, My Everything – Barry White
• Can’t Help Falling in Love – Elvis Presley
• Something – The Beatles
• My Heart Will Go On – Celine Dion
• Let’s Stay Together – Al Green
• Endless Love – Lionel Richie & Diana Ross
• Every Breath You Take – The Police
• God Only Knows – The Beach Boys

It is not an easy task for anyone to decide which particular song is the best love song of all time. There are so many songs about the first kiss in the rain or at some romantic place. When you  listen to best love songs about kiss, their meaningful lyrics reminds you sweet moments of the first kiss of your life.

• Forever and Always – Shania Twain
• Crazy for You – Madonna
• I Can’t Stop Loving You – Ray Charles
• You are So Beautiful – Joe Cocker
• Lady – Styx
• Endless – Lionel Richie and Diana Ross
• I’ll Be There – The Jackson Five
• You’re Beautiful – James Blunt
• Best of My Love – The Emotions
• Eternal Flame – The Bangles
• I Just Called to Say I Love You – Steve Wonder

Go through this best love songs list and choose the right love songs that can play cupid for you.  You can use all these songs as soft romantic background music on your date as it will create the perfect ambiance for a romantic evening at your place. Hope these best love songs will do the same magic for that these are famous in youth as well as in grown-ups.

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Top 30 Love Songs For your love

Top 30 Love songs or very romantic songs in 2012-2013.

1.Tezz-Main hoon shab
2.Tere naal love hogaya-Piya o re piya
3.Son of sardaar-Yeh jo halki
4.Raaz 3-Zindagi se
5.Kya super kool-Shirt da button
6.Raaz 3-Deewana kar raha
7.Jodi breakers-Darmiyan
8.Jannat 2-Tujhe sochta
9.Ishaqzaade-Pareshaan
10.Jab tak hai jaan-saans
11.Jannat 2-Tera deedar hua
12.Hate story-mahe jaan
13.Ek tha tiger-Masha
14.Dabangg 2-saanson ne
15.Ajab gazab love-tu
16.Agneepath-O saiyaan
17.1920-Khud ko tere
18.Tezz-Tere bina
19.Teri meri kahaani-Allah jaane
20.Student -Ishq wala love
21.Rowdy rathore-tera ishq
22.Raaz 3-Rafta
23.Players-dil ye 
24.Jodi breakers-mujhko teri
25.Jism 2-Abhi
26.Jannat 2-Tu hi mera
27.Jab tak -Title song
28.Housefull 2-Do u know
29.Jannat 2-Rab ka
30.Dangerous ishq-Tu hi rab
31.Blood money-Chaahat
32.Ajab gazab love-sun soniye
33.Agent vinod-Raabta
34.Ek tha tiger-saiyaara

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What is the meaning of falling in Love

Meaning of falling Love

In romantic relationships, falling in love is mainly a western concept of moving from a feeling of neutrality towards a person to one of love. The use of the term "fall" means that the process is in some way uncontrollable, risky, irreversible, and that it puts the lover in a state of vulnerability. The term is generally used to describe an (eventual) love that is strong.

Sociobiologists point to the preeminence of heart over head at such crucial moments. Bonding with a mate "suggest that 'the answer to why we fall in love encompasses, complex neurochemical processes that occur in our brains when we are attracted to another person' and 'tell us that when we fall in love we are falling into a stream of naturally occurring amphetamines running through the emotional centers of our very own brains'.

Love is largely self-generated and falling in love a "process Stendhal calls crystallization....Before you fall in love, you see the other person as a bare branch; as you fall, you coat him or her with jeweled attractions about 80 percent of your own making".

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Why God Made Friends : Sweet poem for friends

Why God Made Friends

 

God made the world with a heart full of love,

Then He looked down from Heaven above,

And saw that we all need a helping hand,

Someone to share with, who'll understand.

He made special people to see us through

The glad times and the sad times, too;

A person on whom we can always depend,

Someone we can call a friend.

God made friends so we'll carry a part

Of His perfect love in all our hearts.

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Romantic poem for your girlfriend

Your Arms Around Me

Put your arms around me,
Hold me just like this,
Cover me with love,
So much I don’t exist,

Heal me far from pain,
Start long before you end,
Give me reasons to believe,
We should let this love ascend,

Free me from my worries,
Obliterate my doubt,
Leave the past behind,
And seek the future out,

Go beyond your limit,
(We’ll pass the others by),
And make love part of history,
That no one can defy,

So, put your arms around me,
Let our hearts demure,
Hold me for as long as you can,
And let this love endure,

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Some of Romantic messages

Romantic Messages

1. I could search my whole life through and through an never find another you.
   
2. I love my life because it gave me you
   I love you because you are my life
   
3. They say you only fall in love once, but that can't be true... Every time I look at you, I fall in love all over again.
   
4. When I first saw you, you took my breath away.
   When you first talked to me, I couldn't think.
   When you asked me out, I couldn't respond.
   When you touched me, I got shivers all through my body.
   And when we first kissed, I floated away in my dreams.
   
5. Meeting you was fate, becoming your friend was a choice, but falling in love with you was beyond my control.
   
6. I asked God for a minute and he gave me a day.
   I asked God for a flower and he gave me a bouquet.
   I asked God for love and he gave me that too.
   I asked God for an angel and he gave me you!
   
7. Last night I looked up at the stars
   And matched each one with a reason why I love you
   I was doing great, but then I ran out of stars

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Love poem: That's why I Love You

Why I Love You

You give to me hope
And help me to cope
When life pulls me down
You bring me around

You teach me to care
And help me to share
You make me honest
With kindness the best

From you I learned love
With grace from above
It's for you I live
And I want to give

You are the reason
That fills each season
When I hear love I think of you
You are my world and best friend too

I love you because you are so kind, thoughtful and caring
I love you because you are so pleasant, lovely and sharing

You made me the man I am
Thank you

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Kiss Of My Love poem for lovers

Kiss Of My Love

Your beauty overwhelms me
As I wrap my arms around you
I press your softness tight
Great passion fills my inner being
I'm captured in your embrace
Your eyes control my very soul
The touch of your lips, heaven
Forever frozen in time
All else fades into nothing

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Shayari for shayari lovers

Paraayeon Se Dosti Ki Gunzaaish Nahi Hoti,

Marne Ke Baad Koi Khawaish Nahi Hoti,

Kahi Koi Pyar Bhara Dil Toota Hoga Zaroor,

Nahi Toh Naino Se Aansuo Ki Barish Nahi Hoti!

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For the Shayri Lovers

Bahot Sukoon Milta Hain,
Sachhe Pyar Mein!


Poori Duniya Simat Jaati Hain,
Apne Hi Yaar Mein!!

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How to get a girl for a date

Today I m going to tell you that "HOW TO GET A GIRL FOR DATE" 

Have you noticed a cute girl at work but wondered how you could get a date with that girl? Are you just not sure how to pick up a girl? Here are some steps to help you. 

1. Go where Girls are: That sounds simplistic. Really? But to Pick up a girl, You obviously has to be around other people in various places including: Bars, Park, Cafe, College Canteen, mall, restaurant and many more.
   
   
2. Ask for help: Put it out there. Tell all the older people at work and in your community "What I'd really like is to find a nice girl and settle down." If they find someone for you, get them to host a family dinner with you and the beau/belle as additional guests. You'd be amazed how helpful parents and their networks can be with this kind of thing. Referrals from family or friends are really worth looking at - if your uncle invites you to dinner to meet his new co-worker, it's likely he might have a clue in selecting someone appropriate.
   
   
   
3. Don't be put off by a divorce:  Often people come into the singles "market" after a divorce or breakup of a long term relationship. One divorce shows someone who has had good experience with relationships and the successes and failures. Five divorces of course means something else!
   
   
4. Pop the question: If you talk enough and become good friends with them, then they'll be more interested in you than if you didn't talk to them at all. Then, say something like "Well, I really would like to get to know you. You seem like a really interesting person, so I was wondering if you'd like to go to the movies on Friday night?" This is simply a guideline but you should actually have something worked out to say so you don't fumble for the words.
   
   
5. Follow through: Don't play games and stand up your date. Use the phone number if something happens, and you have to change plans.

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4 Steps To gain Self Confidence

Gain Your Self Confidence

Today i m gonna Show you how to gain your self confidence .  Following these steps will make you the C.E.O. (Chief Emotional Officer) of your life.

1. Use the powerful “I AM” technique. Okay, so the next time you’re waiting for someone else to tell you how good,amazing or successful you are, I want you to take a moment and write down your most important values. For example, loving, caring, kind, honest, productive, successful, lovable  etc. Once you have an exhaustive list, turn your values into nouns and write down “I AM”statements. For example, “I am love”, “I am kind” and “I am success”. Now you can see that those values you care so deeply about ARE you, and you don’t NEED to turn to anyone else for them.
2. Fake it till you make it! This is one of my favorite techniques because it is so effective! Walk around the world and exude confidence – even if you’re not feeling it. If you can’t find the confidence within you, help others find theirs. Encourage your best friend to do something daring, or help your daughter find the answers to her math homework. As you help others feel more confident, a funny thing will start to happen: your confidence will blossom as well.
3. Practice the “Self Care” technique. One of the fastest ways to feel true confidence is to respect, take care of and love yourself. I can’t tell you how many people think loving themselves makes them a snob. It’s just not true! Begin taking care of yourself by simply choosing to dress in a way that makes you feel confident. Do your hair and makeup, make sure your clothes are ironed and take pride in your appearance. When you show you love yourself by dressing nicely, the world will treat you differently. 

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Living with your lover

Living together is a really big step in a relationship and is a sign of commitment from both parties involved. The effects and consequences of making the move are difficult to predict as every situation is different. Whether living together is right for your relationship will depend on how you view the situation and what you are willing to sacrifice.

The Pros
The great thing about moving in together is that you can "test the waters" for marriage. If everything is still well after living together for a while, and you have accepted this person's routines and habits, this experience will add to the foundation of the new marriage if that were to happen down the road.
You can both use this opportunity to really get to know your partner, specifically, their bad habits and undesirable qualities that may have lay dormant before living together. There may be something about their habits at home that strikes a pet peeve of yours. It is better to discover these things now rather than after marriage, as it is much easier to get out of a living situation than a marriage if the unfortunate case may arise.
The main argument of the opposition to moving in is that it takes away all the excitement when you do decide to get married. It just defeats the purpose of your whole marriage altogether and gives you nothing to look forward to.
What may also end up happening is that one person may become far too comfortable with the situation while the other is left wondering if the marriage will ever happen.
Then there is always the religion aspect of things. A man and a woman are not meant to be sexually active before a marriage. And let's face it, living together and sharing the same bed may make this rule a bit difficult to adhere to.

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Love tips : Different Stylies To say I lOVE YOU

Different Stylies To say I LOVE YOU

English - I love you
Afrikaans - Ek het jou lief
Albanian - Te dua
Arabic - Ana behibak (to male)
Arabic - Ana behibek (to female)
Armenian - Yes kez sirumen
Bambara - M'bi fe
Bangla - Aamee tuma ke bhalo aashi
Belarusian - Ya tabe kahayu
Bisaya - Nahigugma ako kanimo
Bulgarian - Obicham te
Cambodian - Soro lahn nhee ah
Cantonese Chinese - Ngo oiy ney a
Catalan - T'estimo
Cheyenne - Ne mohotatse
Chichewa - Ndimakukonda
Corsican - Ti tengu caru (to male)
Creol - Mi aime jou
Croatian - Volim te
Czech - Miluji te
Danish - Jeg Elsker Dig
Dutch - Ik hou van jou
Esperanto - Mi amas vin
Estonian - Ma armastan sind
Ethiopian - Afgreki'
Faroese - Eg elski teg
Farsi - Doset daram
Filipino - Mahal kita
Finnish - Mina rakastan sinua
French - Je t'aime, Je t'adore
Frisian - Ik hâld fan dy
Gaelic - Ta gra agam ort
Georgian - Mikvarhar
German - Ich liebe dich
Greek - S'agapo
Gujarati - Hoo thunay prem karoo choo
Hiligaynon - Palangga ko ikaw
Hawaiian - Aloha wau ia oi
Hebrew - Ani ohev otah (to female)
Hebrew - Ani ohev et otha (to male)
Hiligaynon - Guina higugma ko ikaw
Hindi - Hum Tumhe Pyar Karte hae
Hmong - Kuv hlub koj
Hopi - Nu' umi unangwa'ta
Hungarian - Szeretlek
Icelandic - Eg elska tig
Ilonggo - Palangga ko ikaw
Indonesian - Saya cinta padamu
Inuit - Negligevapse
Irish - Taim i' ngra leat
Italian - Ti amo
Japanese - Aishiteru
Kannada - Naanu ninna preetisuttene
Kapampangan - Kaluguran daka
Kiswahili - Nakupenda
Konkani - Tu magel moga cho
Korean - Sarang Heyo
Latin - Te amo
Latvian - Es tevi miilu
Lebanese - Bahibak
Lithuanian - Tave myliu
Malay - Saya cintakan mu / Aku cinta padamu
Malayalam - Njan Ninne Premikunnu
Mandarin Chinese - Wo ai ni
Marathi - Me tula prem karto
Mohawk - Kanbhik
Moroccan - Ana moajaba bik
Nahuatl - Ni mits neki
Navaho - Ayor anosh'ni
Norwegian - Jeg Elsker Deg
Pandacan - Syota na kita!!
Pangasinan - Inaru Taka
Papiamento - Mi ta stimabo
Persian - Doo-set daaram
Pig Latin - Iay ovlay ouyay
Polish - Kocham Ciebie
Portuguese - Eu te amo
Romanian - Te iubesc
Russian - Ya tebya liubliu
Scot Gaelic - Tha gra\dh agam ort
Serbian - Volim te
Setswana - Ke a go rata
Sign Language - ,\,,/ (represents position of fingers when signing 'I Love You')
Sindhi - Maa tokhe pyar kendo ahyan
Sioux - Techihhila
Slovak - Lu`bim ta
Slovenian - Ljubim te
Spanish - Te quiero / Te amo
Swahili - Ninapenda wewe
Swedish - Jag alskar dig
Swiss-German - Ich lieb Di
Tagalog - Mahal kita
Taiwanese - Wa ga ei li
Tahitian - Ua Here Vau Ia Oe
Tamil - Nan unnai kathalikaraen
Telugu - Nenu ninnu premistunnanu
Thai - Chan rak khun (to male)
Thai - Phom rak khun (to female)
Turkish - Seni Seviyorum
Ukrainian - Ya tebe kahayu
Urdu - mai aap say pyaar karta hoo
Vietnamese - Anh ye^u em (to female)
Vietnamese - Em ye^u anh (to male)
Welsh - 'Rwy'n dy garu di
Yiddish - Ikh hob dikh
Yoruba - Mo ni fe

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Love tips : Taking Your Lover Back Into Your Life

The Happy Times Vs the Sad Times

If you have to put thought into whether the happy times surpassed the sad times, the answer should be clear: Don't give him a second chance because he didn't make you happy. Giving him another chance will only cause you to revisit the past and encounter the same problems over again. If you had major problems then chances are they aren't likely to dissolve into thin air.
All relationships have their ups and downs but emotional turmoil should not be an everyday occurrence. If he doesn't understand why you get upset at him all the time, then it might be the right time to find someone who can communicate on the same level as you and understand why you react the way you do.
However, if you've worked through problems successfully before and feel as though your relationship encompasses something special which is worth working out, give it another shot.

The Opinions of Friends

Did your family and friends approve of your ex-boyfriend who is trying to make his way back into your life?

Your friends and family are the ones who know you best and support the fact that you should be treated in a way that keeps you happy. They are your personal support system and are always at your side when you need a shoulder to cry on, and they provide you with advice when you are confused or distraught.
If your friends and family don't approve of your ex-boyfriend who is trying to weasel himself back into your life then it might be a sign. How can you allow a man who isn't respected by the closest people in your life to claim such an important status in your life? Does he really deserve it, or did he manipulate you in order to obtain such a place in your heart?
Clearly, figuring out whether or not he deserves a spot in your social circle should be thought through before you let him back into your life.

The Reasons Behind the Break Up
Take some time to reflect on a moment in the past when he broke your heart. Do you remember yourself crying on a friend's shoulder or drinking the night away with friends in order to forget about the way he hurt you or made you cry? Are you prepared to repeat such a process if his scheming ways strike again?
Heartbreak can be encountered in any relationship. However, giving a guy another chance once he has already broken your heart can be an extremely regrettable judgment call. An important question to ask yourself is why you would want to be with him if he doesn't want to be with you. Unless you are able to communicate what went wrong previously and how you can make things better, conflict will be an inevitable and unavoidable matter.

Look at all Sides
Examining all these factors is important before determining whether or not he deserves a second chance. The answer might be quite clear even though you refuse to admit it to yourself. You might find yourself searching for reasons to let him crawl back into your life, but make sure you remember how you were treated previously and ask yourself if it is what you really want in a relationship.
Figuring out whether or not there is a spot for him in your future is ultimately your own personal decision.

Happiness matters most
Sometimes women fall back into relationships because they are used to a certain routine of being with a man, or simply don't want to feel lonely. But revisiting a painful past while realizing you could be exploring new options will just cause an elevated level of emotional anxiety.
Feeling happy with yourself is the most important and if getting back together with your ex-boyfriend will prohibit this from happening, then it is time to move on.

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Love Tips : Things That Kill A Relationship

Not Listening

Communication is the crux of all relationships, and if the communication is not strong then your relationship will not be. Not only is talking about your feelings important, but listening is also vital.

When your mate is unleashing his or her emotions on you, make it evident that you are taking what he or she says into consideration. Do this by showing a sincere interest in things you know are important to him or her, regardless if it is a minor thing or a major thing.
Also, if your significant other notifies you of an aspect of your personality or behavior that he or she dislikes that is within reason, try your hardest to prevent yourself from doing such things in the future. Although you may not completely eliminate that annoying habit, the effort that you show will be enough to satisfy that person.

Excess Baggage
Everyone has baggage; however, the key is dealing with that baggage and not allowing it to influence your relationship.

Everyone goes through obstacles throughout their day that cause stress. However, by no means should you tell your mate every time you are upset. With that said, do tell the person when something major happens to you-not when you've been plagued with something as minor as a paper cut. Nobody likes to be burdened with other people's downfalls on a constant basis because they are dealing with their own misfortunes as well.

Commitment Problems
With time, a certain comfort level is reached in a relationship. When this happens, a relationship becomes serious, or in other words, committed. For some, the word "committed" entails labels and obligations.
In order to be in a committed relationship, you must be mature and realize that it will take hard work and dedication to maintain. Make sure that your mate knows where he or she stands with you at all times. This is achieved through actions. Show your mate how much he or she means to you by writing a sentimental poem or by literally telling that person.
Commitment is scary for many because it serves as the end to just being you and the beginning for you being two. So if you are in fact serious about your mate, do not force him or her into a commitment; rather, let things ease into that stage. Do this first by taking the relationship day to day, and then as things progress, subtly slip hints that you are beginning to think about your future together.

Family Matters
The family – you have to love them even though most times it would be easier to throw pixie dust on them and wish they would vanish off to Never land. However, the reality is that you must make sure you are on your best behavior in front of them if you want a serious long-lasting relationship with your mate.
Keep in mind that you must think of this task as a job. You can make a great first impression, but the staying power of that impression is what counts. Make sure the family feels that you are not only getting to know them for your mate, but that you are also getting to know them because you actually like them as people. With that said, invite them to join you in activities that do not include your mate such as shopping.
Also, make sure you exercise great mannerisms. This means always cleaning the table after a meal without being asked and always offering to help in chores around the house. Not only must you go that extra mile, but you also must make sure you impress while doing so. This means always bringing a dish of the family's favorite food each time you come over, or calling the person's mom when at the supermarket to see if she needs anything.

Being a Workaholic
In this day and age, the height of success is a long and rough road to travel. In your voyage to riches, you may unintentionally neglect your special someone.
Your mate can only be so supportive. Remember a long-lasting relationship is as fulfilling as a successful career. As a career entails obstacles and levels to reach the top, so do relationships. However, this does not mean to place your relationship over your career, but rather balance the two.
To maintain this juggling act, you should try to invite your mate to work gatherings and keep him or her updated on the events in your career. This way they will feel connected to that aspect of your life and will be more understanding if you sometimes decide to choose work over them.

YOU DON’T NEED THEM
If your mate still ends up breaking up with you even after all of this, do not waste your time being upset; rather, be relieved with the reassurance that you can do much better.

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